What You’re Doing

Just a quick update on what we are doing in terms of our Passover Prep. We cleaned a lot in the kitchen today and brought a lot from the upstairs fridge to the downstairs one. Our pantry is almost bare and by tomorrow night, the fridge and freezer should be ready for the big clean. On Wednesday night we should be able to start bringing in the Passover foods.

Our menu is pretty complete and hopefully tomorrow I will post with as many recipes as I can get together.

Current guest count for the Seders –

1st Seder – 21
2nd Seder – 22

I don’t think we will know the final number until later this week. Hopefully not the 26 we had first night last year!

Here’s a funny one.

Enjoy!

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMSEFCQCKPo]

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I Should Have Know Better

With Avi it is often two steps forward and one step back. Yesterday I wrote about our visit with Avi. It was really a great visit and we left very hopeful about the next few days. His new meds seemed to be working and all was seemingly well with the world.

Like I said, I should have known better. When Avi has gone into new programs or a new facility the first few days are often good days while he learns the lay of the land. It is usually the third or fourth day when things erupt. When I spoke with Avi this morning he seemed in good spirits and said he had a good night, despite the thunder (of which he is very scared).

Avi called home at about 6:30 and told me that he did not have a good day. He got mad and threw things he reported. As he was telling me he was getting upset and then it was difficult to understand him. This can then spiral into a difficult situation in itself. I just told him that we won’t talk about that anymore, and he calmed down. Clearly he had some difficulties today and hopefully at the meeting tomorrow we will get a sense of what happened.

I am still hopeful that Avi will be coming home to us before Passover and God willing before Shabbat.

Only time will tell.

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Getting Better

Marsha and I visited with Avi this afternoon. He was obviously happy to see us; he was waiting in the common area watching the doorway to see when we would come through. He ran ahead of us to the room where we had our visit and was so happy we were there. He was very playful and giggly while we were there. This was the first time in a long time that I remember seeing Avi so happy. I know much of that is from our visit, but I really think that the meds might be at a place now where he really stabilizing.

On Tuesday Marsha will be meeting at the hospital with Avi’s therapist and we should get some idea of when he will be able to come home. Hopefully he will be able to go back to Princeton House for a few weeks and we will be working our town’s school district to find a good placement for him.

A big thank you to everyone who included Avi in their prayers this weekend, I am sure it helped.

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Hospital

Last night Avi was admitted to Summit Oaks Psychiatric Hospital.

Over the past few days we have gotten reports from the partial hospital program that Avi was not following directions, that he had to be taken out of group every time; he was kicking and breaking things, etc. So the case manager called Marsha in for a meeting yesterday morning. This was to try and decide what to do next. No decisions were really made, and another meeting of everyone who works with Avi (including the home therapists that we have) was scheduled for Monday.

Marsha went about her day after the meeting but at lunch time she was called back to Princeton House because they were starting the transfer process to send Avi to the Hospital. He was just too uncontrollable and he needed a level of care that they cannot provide. Marsha went back and after a few hours of Princeton House looking for a good facility for Avi and then waiting for an ambulance, Avi was brought to Summit Oaks.

The hospital is in Summit, NJ, which is about 30 – 40 minutes from our home, but it seems to be a good facility. The hope is that they will be able to stabilize Avi while he is there so he can come home soon (God willing before Passover).

Leaving your child at the hospital is one of the hardest things a parent can be asked to do. When Avi finally understood that he was going to be staying there, he burst out in tears. Kids cry for many things; when they get hurt, when they don’t get their way, when they are scared. This crying was one of the hardest things I hope I ever have to endure. We had been through this before, as he was an inpatient at a local behavioral hospital over the summer, but no matter how many times, it is still painful to do.

At the same time, it is hard not to think how much easier it will be in the house without Avi being there, and I pray I never feel this sense of shame that I am feeling now because of that thought. I can only hope and pray that he comes back to us very soon and that we will be able to move on from there.

Avi gets to call us once a day and we can call him if we need to. He called us before bed last night and he seemed fine. I called him this morning and he sounded so tired. He said he did not sleep well because he was crying too much. I know he will acclimate to his surroundings, and he won’t be crying every night, but it hurts so much to hear him say that. He will call again tonight and hopefully after a full day there things will be a bit better.

We can visit him on Wednesday evenings from 6:00 to 7:30 and Sunday afternoons from 1:30 to 3:00. We will see him this Sunday and Wednesday, and God willing by next week we can have him home.

His Hebrew name is Avi Binyamin ben Miriam Rivka for those who might be able to have his name added to any mishaberakh lists.

I will update here when I know more.

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Chicken Soup for the Soul

My friend Michelle (who I know from my USY Israel Pilgrimage trip) asked me for a chicken soup recipe to bring to a friend’s Passover Seder. I am putting down the recipe that we use here in our home, but I have to note that this is not like any other recipe that I write, in that there are no exact amounts for most of the ingredients. I often say that baking is science and cooking is art. Well if cooking is art, then making Chicken soup is the highest form of art.

So here for your gastronomical enjoyment is Chicken Soup with Matza Balls

Ingredients:

1 Chicken
carrots
celery
parsnips
turnips
1 large or 2 medium leeks
1 medium to large sweet potato
garlic
dill
parsley

I usually use a chicken cut up into quarters. The best would be to cut up your own chicken so that you have all of the back pieces but you can buy one in quarters from the supermarket. The chicken should be about 3 lbs.

Place the cleaned chicken in a large pot. There should be ample room in the pot for the chicken, the rest of the ingredients and plenty of water. Cover the chicken with water to fill about 3/4 of the pot. Bring to boil and allow to boil for 10 to 15 minutes.

While the pot is coming to a boil, cut up all the vegetables into 1/2″ chunks. Chop the herbs as well.

Depending upon how clean the chicken was, there will be some stuff floating in the water as well as some chicken fat. You should lower the heat and skim this off at this point. Add all the vegetables (except the dill and parsley) and simmer covered for at least 2 hours up to 6. The longer the water simmers the more chicken flavor. Taste the soup. If you think it needs more flavor, simmer longer.

15 minutes before the soup is done, add the herbs and salt and pepper to taste.

You can serve it at this point, or allow to cool and refrigerate overnight. In the morning, the chicken fat should have solidified on the top of the pot. You can easily remove it.

Matza Balls

Matza balls are actually very easy. You just need to follow these simple directions for about 10 Matza Balls

Beat 2 eggs with 2 TBS of oil. Add a tsp each of salt and white pepper. I also like to add a tsp of ginger. Add about 1/2 to 3/4 cup of matza meal in ¼ cup increments. Mix in well after each addition. The mix should still be a bit watery so watch the mix and stop adding matza meal if it starts to get thick. If you think it is too thick, add a little water or seltzer.

It is important now to refrigerate the mix for at least 30 minutes up to an hour. You can cook the matza balls in the soup or in a pot of water. Either way, bring the liquid to a boil. To make the balls with your hands, wet them and then take a bit of mix and roll a ball in your hand. Do not overwork the balls. Drop into the boiling liquid. You can also make with melon ball scoop. After all of the balls are in the liquid, cover the pot and boil for about 15 minutes. You should end up with very light and fluffy matza balls.

That is about it. Any questions let me know.

Enjoy!

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Passover

Well, we’re off and running. Passover is 3 weeks from Wednesday and this past Saturday night the three moms got together like last year to plan out the Seders. Marsha went over the Lisa’s house at about 9:30 or so after the kids were in bed, and she did not come home until about 4:30 am! Don’t worry; they did not spend the entire time planning Passover, just shooting the breeze.

Our core group for the two Seders is the same as last year. We are five plus my in-laws make seven. One of the other families is five and the other six, so that brings our core group to 18. Then there are the extras. First night will be my parents and sister, so we will be at least at 21. Second night is still open. We are checking with friends to see who does not have a place for Seder. Last year we were at 26 for the first night, so who knows, we might just make it up there again.

For the past ten years or so, I have been working on a commentary on the Hagaddah. I have written more pages this year and I will continue to write some between now and Passover. As I did last year, I will post some pages at Passover.wordpress.com. I really would love feedback. Please take a look and let me know what you think.

And for those of my friends from USY who remember Rabbi Paul and his wife Nina, here is something you might enjoy!

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NUNZlTlJJRQ]

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Life on Mars

Everyone knows I love this show, but unfortunately, not enough other people do and the show will air its final episode on April 2. At least they knew it was going to end in time to create a final episode which will tie everything together. In the meantime, I enjoyed this last episode. It had music by Simon and Garfunkel AND the Partridge Family. How bad could it have been?

Enjoy!

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxqBGUIjMFk]
Fakin’ It by Simon and Garfunkel

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRxZqb0SlLg]
Venus by Shocking Blue

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDYtyqRxEvo]
Point Me in the Direction of Albuquerque by the Partridge Family

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Avi’s Progress (and something fun)

Avi has been getting worse and it has been putting a strain on everything.  Today he was admitted to a partial hospital program.  He was there over the summer (Princeton House). He will go there from 9:30 to 3:30 every day at least until next Thursday when they will re-submit to the insurance (which I am sure will go through).  It is also a possibility that he will move to an in-patient program in the near future and we are now starting to consider residential programs.  It’s hard but we need to consider every possibility and determine what will be best for Avi.

It is very hard to imagine Avi not staying with us, but we need to think of what would be best for him and for our family, and if a residential program is what will help, then we will certainly consider it. Right now it is just getting him into this program and figuring out his meds and his therapy.

Wanting to end this off on a good note, I recently got a hold of a movie. And before I say the name, I have to add:

NO WISECRACKS WREKE!

Ok, that being said, I purchased the DVD of Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band. So Wreke can calm down a bit, this movie is horrible! The acting, if you want to call it that, was in the toilet. Most of the covers of the Beatles songs are bad and there is almost no plot. So why did I buy the movie? I remember it being fun watching it. It was not fun in an “I love that” way, but in a campy let’s have a good laugh way. I showed this to Avi and Shayna. To my surprise, it was Shayna who enjoyed this more than anyone. She recognized many of the Beatles songs even though some did not sound like the original. Shayna…Is…Three…Years…Old! Go Shayna! And at least there are three redeeming moments in the movie, Got to Get You Into My Life by Earth, Wind, and Fire, Get Back by Billy Preston and Come Together by Aerosmith. And the final scene with loads of stars recreating the concept of the album cover is memorable (although Carol Channing gets way too much time on screen).

So there you have it. I guess even though it is a horrible movie, I like it and I am not afraid to admit it!

Here is the Earth Wind and Fire clip.

Enjoy!

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBBN0T5PYXY]

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Purim

We just returned a short while ago from the megillah reading at our synagogue. Purim is always a lot of fun, but this year we were one short. Noam was not feeling well, so my father-in-law stayed home with him while the rest of us went to shul. Avi had a pirate costume, but it ended up being too small, so he went without. Shayna was the requisite princess. Here is a photo of Shayna.

Now that Purim is past, we start getting ready for Passover. More on that tomorrow!

Enjoy!

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Phil’s World Famous Never Fail Hamentashen

OK, maybe not world famous, but it was published on a long ago defunct website called JCN (Jewish Communications Network) where I wrote their cooking column.  It is very easy and creates about 2 dozen great Hamentashen.  I posted this here last year, but here I add some commentary.

Ingredients –

1.  1 stick of margerine (or 1/2 C of Crisco)
2.  1 C sugar
3.  1 large egg
4.  1 1/2 t baking powder
5.  1 t vanilla
6.  2 C flour

1.  Cream the margerine and the sugar in a large bowl.  Creaming just means mixing fat (usually butter) with sugar.  You want it well mixed together .  I use my kitchen aid standing mixer, and highly recommend using a mixer.

2.  Add the egg and mix well.

3.  Add the baking powder and vanilla and mix.

4.  Add one cup of the flour and mix in.  Depending on many factors you may use any amount of the second cup of flour (perhaps even a bit more).  The most major factor is humidity.  The more humid, the more flour you will use.  Today for example, doing a double batch I only needed 3 cups of flour!  I suggest adding the second cup by quarter cups.  You want the dough to be like cookie dough, but just a bit dryer as you will need to roll it out.  You also do not want too much flour as you will add flour to the board when you roll.  I like to let the dough stand for a short while to allow everything to incorporate.  You can wrap in plastic wrap and put in the fridge for about an hour.

5.  Roll out to about 1/4″ thickness and then cut out circles with a cookie cutter or a glass.  I use an “old fashion” glass which is about 3 inches in diameter.

6.  Put about 1/2 t of filling in each and then fold up the edges to make a hamentashen (see photo).  Place on cookie sheet sprayed with non stick spray.

7.  Bake in a 350° oven for about 10 minutes.  You want the hamentashen to just start browning.  Don’t let them get dark brown.  Remove from cookie sheet to cooling rack.

Fillings –

This is not meant to be an endorsement, but I have tried them all. The best filling that one can buy for Hamentashen is Solo brand pie filling. It has the best consistency of the pie fillings I have found. Traditional flavors would be Prune, Poppy or Apricot, though they have many different flavors. You could also use Chocolate Chips, or Nutella, which is a hazelnut chocolate combination.  Be careful with Chocolate chips though as the cookie will dry up when baking.  I like to put a small amount of raspberry or strawberry filling in the center and put two or three chocolate chips in the filling.

If you would like to make your own fillings, you should take your fresh fruit, peel then and take out any seeds or pits and then cut them into smaller pieces. Place in a pot and put in some sugar to taste. If the fruit dried, like apricot, you should just cover the fruit with water.  Cook this down slowly until you are left with a thick syrup. If it is not the right consistency, mix one teaspoon of corn starch with 1 teaspoon water in a glass. Pour into the fruit mixture. It will thicken up quickly.

NOTES:
You can use 1/2 stick of regular Margarine and 1/2 stick light margarine to cut down on some of the calories.

You can use your food processor for this recipe. Put the Margarine and the sugar in the bowl of the food processor, and process for 30 seconds. Add the rest of the ingredients except the flour and process for about 1 minute until mixed through. Add the flour and process until the dough begins to form a ball in the center of the bowl. At this point, take it out and finish it on your floured board.

It is best to chill the dough before rolling so it is easier to work with.

Enjoy!

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